But is it the path that will make you the happiest. The yard stick he uses to assess what is "normal" is so warped that he has lost touch with what a happy life could look like he often berates himself for feeling so miserable given how "easy" his schedule is at just 65 hours a week, not like surgery or some other 80 hour a week speciality. I would not fear as much as she does, but that is her reality. To Anonymous, Your comment also left me heartbroken. I am a non-Mormon woman married to a Mormon manвwhich seems to be a less common scenario in the LDS world. As Joanna said, marriage takes some work no matter what, but being married to your best friend, and listening to the spirit brings great blessings. Think about what you want in a relationship. It is not easy for a nonmember spouse to understand a three hour worship block plus callings etc. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him.
All those are reasons to give the church some elbow room but they are not reasons for actually staying. Heck his sleeps best with me on his chest. But I loved this girl more than anything in life.
Oh well, at least now I know. She got engaged 3 months later. They're very caring in some ways, but lack where it matters most. We learn sooooooo much from each other. I don't think you necessarily need to cut ties with her. We are a welcoming community. Maybe you will win. Little did I know that at least some of these "emergencies" were actually rendezvous with his affair partner. My dear faithful LDS aunt married a good non-member man.
You may look on here and see all of us, but a lot of us got out much much older. We'll see how long till last I have my business degree and work in a male Dominated environment so I have choices. Today, I actually feel like I might literally go insane. Actually, Mormon families are shrinking, just like those outside the Church, but they will always be larger than families outside Mormondom. I had many extremely hurtful things said to me, along with an intervention hosted by my married-in-the-temple-and-divorced grandmother. He had the night shift last night so today was his day off and he also has research to do. Or am I just being a pushover and need to demand a little more if he wants to keep seeing me. She sounds like she is worth the extra work. If she says yes. If she says yes.